As many of you know we had so much happened in the past couple years. However, 2018 was a huge year for milestones and growth! Emma + Selena have grown so much + are learning new things all the time. They both undergo special therapy weekly to help developmental + physical skills. As parents we are beyond proud of them both and can't wait to see what they learn in 2019!
Our first-born Emma, is two years old and has yet to say "mama" or complete phrases. With a speech delay we have had to really focus on new ways to communicate with her. She has learned sign language for different things like food, more, and want (just to name a few). Her baby babble has really increased which is great because it shows us her attempting. She understands a lot of what we say, but doesn't try to say ever repeat phrases later on. She will pick certain words to repeat and sometimes will repeat a new word that we are trying to introduce. Her therapist is always really impressed with the amount of understanding that she has learned and how she attends at during activities. She has given us major props for really working with her because she can see the improvements weekly. I have different projects for Emma to work on that I have made myself, picture flashcards, tons of books, and of course arts + crafts supply. This year I really want to focus on her behaviors and get potty training done! She has started small tantrums due to the frustrations of communicating what she wants or feels. This is I'm sure a normal 2-year-old thing, but we really try to focus on calming her and redirecting the behavior to a positive one. Learning as we go! Potty training is a whole other story. She was introduced to the potty at 1 and understands to sit + go, but won't stop herself from going in her pull up. We have tried different methods to help motivate her to tell us but so far rewarding her with a sticker has seemed to help her understand a bit more, but we have to keep her on a schedule. Really big goals for Emma in 2019!
Selena. Oh, our little Selena. You would probably believe me when I say that she is very strong. I mean she did fight thru the NICU and has continued to fight her prematurity status. When I say this little girl is all attitude and then some, we mean it. She has a really strong character + loves to do her own thing! She will not stop at the word of "NO" and that can only mean that she'll be super ambitious, right?! (Positive thinking!) In all seriousness she may have a tough girl outer shell but she has such a loving spirit. She loves to play chase with dad, sister and her fur brothers Bear + Balto. Loves to climb + play with every single toy and non-toy. Selena will laugh at the most random things + gets really excited when daddy wants to get her. This year we are also going to work on her speech delay and hand-eye coordination. Selena is definitely a lot like me (her amazing mother) but she has a lot to still catch up on.
As for me, this past year has had to teach me a hard lesson of self-care. For those who don't know we lost our son in 2017. His loss really put me in a whirlwind of emotions. I will always grieve his loss and somedays it's harder than others but I have to stay strong. These emotions started to cause anxieties to germs, routine mishaps, and constant worries over little things. Mark has always seen me as an emotional woman but I think 2018 really took its toll on me mentally. At 27 years old I was diagnosed with shingles. Yup, shingles. It was not a fun experience and I still have their markings on my skin. UGH! The reason I got them was due to my high stress and very low immune system. Honestly, I was super stressed about the girls and them being on track with our therapy goals, making sure I'm doing every possible thing in my power to enable better learning skills, and then normal insecurities we face as women, wives and mothers. So yeah, I learned to really be self-aware and to take a deep breath mentally. This year I want to continue to focus on my health, mentally + physically but also try to grow myself as a blogger and entrepreneur in my illustrations. 2019 is a clean slate and will only be the year that I make it to be. I want to be happy and inspire others! I want to see my girls thrive and be a part of their every milestone! I want to see my husband happy, and confident in his goals and also in my mental state. I want no worries for him and want him to see that I am trying to better myself and give myself that self-love and care that we all need. These things will in all make me happy, and I am so excited to start this journey and share our amazing milestones with you all!
Our story is one that is hard to tell over and over. For those who know about the loss we suffered, it was one that no parent imagines to ever go through. For those who don't know, our son, Mark Anthony II passed away at 16 days old in the NICU.
I was blessed to come in contact with Connie Gomez who runs Houston Latina Bloggers. We were able to connect and I instantly put myself in this amazing group of women. They support, and share with one another. I love that! Being able to be apart of something and share my blog and talents is a great way for me to feel reconnected. Especially through this time of being confined for our preemies health.
Through Houston Latina Bloggers I was connected to an amazing photographer, Anel. She owns Tender Nest Portraits, and captures beautiful moments. Anel reached out to me because of how touched she was by our story. She offered to capture moments of our family but also honor our son who passed away last year in July.
Anel...I want to personally thank you for that. The pictures you captured are beautiful and I love that his tiny bear was present with us. Some may not know the sentiment behind that particular bear but for us, it holds a key value. A memory. A moment in time where we never want to re-live but we will always remember.
I wanted to share all of the beautiful pictures with everyone, and also share the true story we were capturing..LIFE. Our son may not be with us anymore but we live on, and we make sure to never forget him. We are thankful for the love we share as a family and the strength that has grown between my husband and I. We aren't perfect but we love each other more than anything..Mark is my soulmate and I'm so blessed to see him be an amazing father to our children. Our girls are growing daily and Selena has proven her strength and amazes us with her progress. Emma is the most rambunctious child and has a playful spirit that I hope never fades.
I have to admit that being jealous of your partner is normal, and probably happens to most of us moms out there. It drives me crazy when Emma is so rambunctious all day long and then when daddy gets home, she is so willing to just sit and chill on the couch with him. Like what??? Another example that I hear the most is that little ones tend to say "dada" first. Like ew, why?! (all jokes aside) I love seeing the father Mark has become.
There have been many moments that I cannot calm their tears, and they prefer to be held by their daddy. These girls are in love with Mark, and I'm so glad that they have a special bond with him. I have watched Mark become a father by the love he shares, the sacrifices he makes, and the hard work he does daily to keep us afloat.
These little girls adore their dad, and Emma can count on a super adventurous day when daddy is home. They have their play time which includes Mark throwing and flipping her in the air. She absolutely loves it, all the while I'm having a severe panic attack in the background. My point is that these girls have an amazing daddy.
Yes, we can fall jealous to the small things that our kids may prefer sometimes, but we should be so grateful that our little ones can have a beautiful bond with their dad. Some kids aren't that lucky. A reminder to all, love your partner and encourage your little one(s) to build memories with their dad and help them understand that he will always be there for them. Give your partner the encouragement too that they are a great father and you appreciate the love they give to your kids.
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